Going through the breakdown of a marriage or relationship is an extremely emotional time and its effects are felt throughout the whole family. It is important to take care of yourself during this time, as you will experience a roller coaster of emotions. In support of Mental Health Awareness Week, Claire Porter, Associate in our Family team, provides some useful tips for self care during a divorce or relationship breakdown.
Reach out to Support Networks
When making decisions about divorce, financial settlements or arrangements for children, these issues should be approached with a clear head, therefore, support networks are vital. Sometimes, it is best not to discuss such sensitive issues with extended family members who may express their own opinions, which may cloud your judgment. It can be beneficial to seek support through a professional third party such as counsellors, life coaches, therapists and psychotherapists, depending upon your needs. There is often a stigma surrounding seeking this kind of support, however, there is nothing to be ashamed of and the outcome that could result from this is what truly matters.
Maintain a Regular and Healthy Routine
During a relationship breakdown, it is important to be kind to yourself, take each day as it comes, live in the present and be prepared for the inevitable fluctuation of emotions. Human beings are resilient, but sticking to a healthy routine including a good sleeping pattern, eating well, exercising regularly and taking time outdoors will help you through this difficult time and also enable you to take better care of yourself and your children.
Keep a Journal
Keeping a divorce journal will allow you to keep an accurate record of important dates that your family lawyer may need from you. It is also an excellent method of documenting your thoughts and feelings and gives you the opportunity to contemplate where you have been and where you want to go.
Organise Your Financial Documentation
It is important to keep your financial documentation in good order as you will be required to provide details of your financial position to your family lawyer.
Seek Expert Legal Advice
It is also important that you find the right family lawyer for you. The majority of family lawyers will approach your case sensitively with the aim of resolving matters amicably, whilst adopting a conciliatory approach.
As an experienced family lawyer, accredited specialist and member of Resolution, Claire is well-equipped to provide you with expert legal advice on divorce and family matters.
Remember that self care during a divorce or relationship breakdown is important; make sure that you give yourself time to heal and take care of your health and wellbeing.
For further support, please explore these extra links below that you may find useful:
- Relate – Provides relationship guidance counselling support services across the UK, including marriage, LGBT issues, divorce and parenting.
- MIND – A mental health charity supporting anyone who may be struggling with their mental health.